'I would thank you to never come back to my restaurant': Lee Skeet calls out customer for disrepectful, degrading treatment of his front of house manager

Tanwen Dawn-Hiscox

Tanwen Dawn-Hiscox

Deputy Editor

They say you can tell a lot about a person based on how they treat waiting staff.

Lee Skeet evidently thinks so, as evidenced by a letter the chef and owner of Cardiff restaurant, Cora, sent to a customer after witnessing the appalling way in which they treated his front of house manager Lily. In his note, he offered to refund the cost of their meal - minus a tip - but kindly asked that they never visit his restaurant again.

Later, the chef came to his senses: he decided to give Lily the full £1,000.

The chef began his letter by thanking the guest for their custom, acknowledging that a £1,000 bill was the highest single payment he has ever received for a single table at his restaurant. 

'Lily means a lot more to me than money'

However, he added, "throughout the evening I was made aware that your party's behavior (sic) was innappropriate towards Lily, who runs our front of house."

As a 22 year old, he continued, "she was talked down to, disrespected and touched unwantedly by members of your group."

"I have spent the last hour having conversations with her that break my heart, make me feel like a s**t employer, and a terrible dad," he added. 

"Please provide your bank details and I will refund you your entire bill of £1,000 minus £100 which I believe you should have tipped Lily - which I will pay directly to her - as you left no tip."

"I would thank you to never come back to my restaurant. Lily means a lot more to me than money."

A reminder that sometimes the kindest thing to do does require calling people out, the chef posted the letter on social media, stressing that he was neither trying to create clout or cancel anyone.

"I just think we should probably start valuing our friends more than we value money or status.

"Being a good cook or a good restaurant means nothing to me unless my friends are equally respected."

'This is how you should deal with that abuse'

Meanwhile, Lily detailed the events on her own account, explaining that she has "enjoyed meeting every customer at Cora. It is what I look forward to each day and I've had the most amazing people visit the restaurant."

However, she added, "I had the worst table of my career last night and it's about time we end abuse towards hospitality workers. We are not lesser than anyone else."

Thanking Lee for taking the course of action that he did, she said: "This is how you should deal with that abuse." 

"Cora is changing the game."

 U-turn

After an outpouring of support on social media, the chef posted again, acknowledging that he had "reacted too quickly and emotionally last night," adding: " Sorry I was a little bit angry and protective."

"I’m not going to refund the customer’s money."

"I’ve instead kept it and transferred to lily."

 

Cora

Lee opened his first bricks and mortar site earlier this year, after running a successful supper club from his home throughout the pandemic, followed by a 40 day and 40 night pop-up in the Welsh capital.

Named after his first daughter, the 12-seater is set above the city's Café Milkwood, Pontcanna. Intent on prioritising his family life, the chef only opens the restaurant from Monday to Friday, with no dinner service on Fridays.

Shortly after the launch, Lee succcessfully raised £30,000 through a kickstarter campaign, allowing him to fit out the restaurant to a better standard. 

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Tanwen Dawn-Hiscox

Tanwen Dawn-Hiscox

Deputy Editor 5th May 2022

'I would thank you to never come back to my restaurant': Lee Skeet calls out customer for disrepectful, degrading treatment of his front of house manager